Words vs Actions
Today my Mom came up to me and said that one of them asked If I could park my car in a different spot - that I have been parking in for almost 20 years so that is basically “my spot.” They want that spot to be available and open so when their family visits – which they do more now since they are needing more and more help – won’t have to park across the street. Which is kinda like saying that the spot is really theirs and I have been just using it this whole time and now they want it back and that their family shouldn't have to walk across the street – I should.
It doesn't matter if they talk like an asshole, it matters if their actions are the acts of an asshole. It doesn't matter if someone talks like a friendly benevolent being – it matters what their actions prove them to be.
Someone could tell you “I would do anything for you, I love you so much, you are great!” and then when their actions are lacking you will know them. Or if they say “I hate you leave me alone” when all of their actions were kind and considerate. Or if they say "I am a bad person" and then they don't act like a bad person. Or if they say "I am a good person" and then all of their actions prove other-wise.
Someone could tell you “This tree grows the best tasting fruit ever!” and you will not know until you taste it for yourself. You know the tree by it's fruits, not by the advertisements, or the packaging, or the words.
When someone tells you who they are, wait for them to reveal themselves through their actions. When someone shows you who they are – believe them.